Calling all mothers who, like me, wish that there was a manual on how to play this parenting role perfectly. Amiright? Unfortunately, I can't bring you that, if only! What I can offer is some advice on how to elevate the way we praise our children.
How many times has your child run up to you excitedly wanting praise and the easiest and first words that come to mind are, "good job?". (Guilty as charged over here!). After awhile the words "good job" begins to lose the spark. Just like after awhile words "I love you" and "I'm sorry" don't hit the way that they did the first few times that they were said. So what can we do about it? Let us help...
Praise is crucial in helping to motivate and establish a healthy self-esteem within our children, but it's more powerful when it's specific. Specific praise doesn't need to be complex it just need to answer what it was, specifically, that your child did. Consider you child's kindness, courage and persistence when coming up with a praise.
Save the list below for some of our favorite alternatives to the words "good job!" next time you feel stuck.
Think of your words as your child’s inner voice.
You want them to learn things about themselves and start to maybe even repeat these to themselves when you're not around.
Remember, don't be too hard on yourself because more than anything, your kids just want to be loved and feel connected to you.
Observe your child’s reaction. Do you hear them mirroring your praise? Do you notice a difference?
Brenda G Robinson said:
I love the uplift and positivity you bring to my life each time I review your writings or inspirational posts. I share with my grands and great grands and advise them to do the same with theirs. GOD has truly been good, and I Thank HIM every day for HIS Grace and Mercy. Our
children are our gifts and need our love and support, our guidance, our experience shared. But all while we care for ourselves in order to ensure we are here to guide, teach and direct them just as we needed that for ourselves. So let’s continue to do this together. None of us are in this alone. It truly takes a village. Keep up the great work and inspirational communications and sharing of your sunshine. You are an awesome person. May GOD’s Blessings continue to rain upon you.
July 05, 2022